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Should we stay or should we go?

Fascinating discussion on the site this week kicked off by yesterday’s question: “Guns in schools, Roe v. Wade in danger, and children separated from parents at the border, no ‘facts’ or ‘science’ anymore…. Anyone at the point of leaving the US?”

As I was thinking through that question, I got another data dump of reality in the US right now:

First, this piece detailing how the US is the tenth most dangerous country for women.

Just after it I read a piece in a New York Times called “America is Guilty of Neglecting Kids: Our Own”. From that piece: “It’s not just the kids at the border. America systematically shortchanges tens of millions of children, including homegrown kids. The upshot is that American kids are more likely to be poor, to drop out of high school and even to die young than in other advanced countries. Read more...

Good News / Bad News of the Week

The Good News

Centering Queer Women
Naomi Extra sat down with Lynn Comella about her new book Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure, which describes how women revolutionized the incredibly male-dominated sex toy industry and put the pleasure of women—particularly queer women—at the center of it. Read On…

Fighting for Our Kids
Jen Gann wrote an excellent reflection on how difficult it is being a parent in America in 2018 as well as the issue with people using the “what if this was your own child?” reason to show compassion for others. It’s also, however, made her fight harder than ever before. Read On…
DID YOU KNOW: An interesting and controversial new study argues that there may not be a limit to human aging. Scientists have believed for centuries that the risk of mortality increases exponentially as people get older, but what if that foregone conclusion didn’t exist? Read more...

Some witch hunt

A lot of the men I’ve heard talk about the #metoo movement in the past year take one of two stances:

  1. It’s an unfair, broad-sweeping witch hunt in which victims and innocent bystanders will be unfairly punished.
  2. It’s broadly-sweeping and that may suck for an entire generation of men, but men kinda had it coming to them and maybe it’ll be the reset we need in how this country defines and excuses “masculinity.”

I was listening to W. Kamau Bell on Fresh Air this week, and he was espousing the second point of view, saying there was a moment when it seemed liked all women were coming for an entire generation of men.

Seemed like is a crucial qualifier there. When predators are outed in one-off press stories, it can feel relentless, like the trend is larger than it actually is. But this week Bloomberg detailed the actual number of high-profile people caught up in the global #metoo scandal: 417 at Bloomberg’s count. Read more...

Good News / Bad News of the Day

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Funny Gals
Glamour did a great feature on women comedy writers—include Molly McNearney, Pia Glenn, Melinda Taub, Kat Radley, Jasmine Pierce, and Ariel Dumas—and they talked about everything: The industry, diversity in writers’ rooms, and more. Read On…

Epilogue of the Mormon Mom Blogger
Within the world of mom blogging, there seems to be a particular subset of Mormon mom bloggers who often known for their picture-perfect lives. But as with pretty much all of us on the internet, who we project online isn’t necessarily who we are in person. Lydia Kiesling talked to Natalie Lovin, previously known as the popular mid-2000s Mormon mom blogger Nat the Fat Rat, about what life became behind the screen. Read On…
DID YOU KNOW: Welp, looks like not much has changed on the tech front: A new study from a watchdog group in Norway found that both Google and Facebook push their users to make choices on their sites that push them give up parts of their privacy, often without users’ knowledge. Read more...

Now with more “you”

We have something new on the site today. Click on your user name, or anyone’s user name in any question or answer, and you’ll go to one of our new profile pages!

Among other things, it gives you bio information, and an entire list of all the questions and answers you’ve asked or answered in your Chairman Mom life. (It doesn’t list anything you’ve asked or answered anonymously, as we don’t even know who you are when you ask or answer a question anonymously.)

I had fun clicking around on a few of my favorite regulars today to see how much they’ve helped out women since our April launch. (I don’t think anyone has quite reached my answer total… ) And it’s awesome to be able to click through and learn a little more about someone when you are connecting with them on a thread. Read more...

Good News / Bad News of the day

The Good News

Young Jean Lee and Straight White Men
Young Jean Lee made history this week when she became the first Asian American playwright to debut her play on Broadway. Her play Straight White Men examines straight white men (as one would presume) through a different perspective and as an identity group. Read On…

More Like Ocasio-Cortez
The biggest upset of last night’s primaries happened in New York’s 14th congressional district, where Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez unseated Joe Crowley, a 20-year incumbent and the fourth-ranking Democrat in the party’s House leadership. Ocasio-Cortez ran on a progressive platform and centered abolishing ICE as one of her key issues. Read On… Read more...

It doesn’t have to be perfect

I’ve undergone a pretty major life change in recent years from spending 95% of my time with men to now spending 95% of my time with women. This has been pretty life-changing in a few ways: Not least of which, my “friendships” feel like actual, real friendships and my confidence is boosted the more I hang out with these women. The women in my life want to help other women succeed, and unlike a lot of “crushing it” men I know, the women in my life are good at asking for help and being real about what they need help with. Mostly there’s just so much love. Read more...

Good news / Bad News of the day

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“Good With Money”
We often hear sexist comments about how women just aren’t “good with money,” and while many of you probably already knew that this is BS, a 10-year study dug into what actually makes people good at handling their money. It turns out that self-efficacy, defined as “one’s belief in one’s ability to succeed in specific situations or accomplish a task,” is critical into how you manage your funds. In other words, if you believe you can successfully learn more about money, handle your finances, and make good investments, you will. Read On… Read more...

My “I hate you, Mom” moment

I was really interested in Sarah’s intro and subsequent question last week about the film Lady Bird. I had a more positive reaction to it and saw a little more of my relationship with my mom (who reads this newsletter—hi, mom!), but it also led me to reflect a little more over the weekend about how we construct mother/daughter relationships and what’s performative versus what’s real.

Like many women, my relationship with my mother has changed over time, especially as I’ve grown older and become more independent; things also changed after I think my mom felt like a lot of her initial “job” was done. Once I quit crew during my junior year of high school and then got into my first-choice college Early Decision in December of my senior year, my mom and I became a lot closer and lot more friend-like in our relationship. The pressure was off; I was going to be on my own in a few months, and I think my mom knew I was perfectly capable of handling the vast majority of my life from here on out. Read more...

Good News / Bad News of the Day

The Good News

An IPO and Maternity Leave
Stitch Fix founder and CEO Katrina Lake was the only woman to lead a tech IPO in 2017, and now she’s one of the only CEOs of a public company to take maternity leave when she gives birth. And in a world where the few female CEOs out there take only a few weeks of their parental leave, Lake is taking a full 16 weeks off. She says she’s excited that her move will continue to lead towards more conversation and action for women. Read On…

A Bright Spot of Kindness
This is a nice heartwarming story for you to read about in the midst of all the terrible news: On a recent Alaska Airlines flight, teenager Clara Daly communicated with Tim Cook, a man who is both blind and deaf, via American Sign Language at first to help him get settled in his seat and then to talk about to him about life and background. Read On…
DID YOU KNOW: The number of calls that U.S. Poison Control received over kids’ exposure to buprenorphine, an opioid medication used to treat opioid use disorder, went up 215% from 2007-2010 alone, and there have been more spikes in the past decade. Experts are saying that as communities figure out ways to treat opioid addiction, they need to ensure that children are not accidentally exposed to these various drugs and medications, which have toxic effects on them. Read more...